In October 2008, we were getting ready for the first exam in our American Lit class. Fletcher asked if I was interested in a study group. The guy I had been crushing on all semester just asked if I wanted to be in a study group?! I quickly said yes. In hindsight...probably too quickly. Like awkwardly quickly. Whatever. We're married now. :)
I decided that I was going to make cookies. Fletcher had mentioned that he likes chocolate chip. Almost everyone on the planet likes chocolate chip cookies, so it wouldn't seem weird.
October 19th, I made my way up to c-lab when it opened after Campus Church. Found Fletcher in one of the seating areas. He was alone. "No one else could make it," he said.
Do I still bring out the cookies? I mean...I made them for him. But I don't want him to KNOW that I made them for him. WHAT DO I DO?!?
The cookies stayed in my backpack. We studied for our test (btw...this is where the "Men are like planets" joke comes from...he found a typo in my notes and still won't let me forget it), and then spent two hours talking about our families.
A few years later, he confessed that he never invited anyone else to the study group. And then I confessed that those poor cookies were left in my backpack.
Today, eight years later, we made chocolate chip cookies and ate them with our sons.
Wednesday, October 19, 2016
Cookie Day
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Friday, October 25, 2013
Ezra's Daddy
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Labels: baby, Christian home, fatherhood, infancy, leading, marriage, one year old, parenting
Ezra is One!
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Labels: baby, child development, experience, fatherhood, motherhood, one year old, parenting
Thursday, July 25, 2013
Nine Months Old!
I can't believe Ezra is nine months old today. Time is flying by way too fast.
{I'll have weight and length stats later today}
He started crawling at the beach, at 7m13d. He has all four central incisors now, too.
We've switched to Baby Led Weaning when it comes to solids. He despised purees and loves to feed himself. He still loves avocado and enjoys green beans and chicken, too. He continues to hate carrots, though.
He's nursing 8-12 times in 24 hours. Sometimes he'll sleep for 4-5 hours at night before waking the first time, which is glorious whenever it happens. He's on the move so much during the day that he's only "snacking" and nurses much better at night.
Ezra has been pulling himself up for a while and is cruising everywhere. He's letting go of things and standing for longer periods of time every day. He hasn't taken any steps, yet, but we're expecting it any day now.
He said "Dada" first and usually goes into, "Dadadadadada," when he's happy about something. Up until yesterday, he would only say, "Mama," if he was mad. He's used it happily a few times now. And a few days ago we heard, "Nana," which I finally caught on video today.
He also went to his first baseball game last month.
Only three months until his first birthday...yikes.
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Labels: baby, child development, infancy, nine months old, parenting
Thursday, April 25, 2013
Ezra- 6 Months Old
Hard to believe we've made it survived blissfully soared through the last six months. Ezra is growing fast and hitting new milestones quicker than we've been prepared for.
Height: 28 inches (93rd percentile)
Weight: 19 lbs, 3.2 oz (80th percentile)
He's nursing on demand anywhere from every 2-4 hours. Still won't take more than an ounce from a bottle of pumped milk, so we're just nursing. Sometimes he'll sleep for a 5 hour stretch at night...other nights he's up every 2 hours. Keeping me on my toes.
We've "played" with solids a few times and totally skipped rice cereal. He really likes avocado and pears, and last night he was sucking on an asparagus spear like it was a candy cane. He's not too sure about bananas. But we're taking it slow and not rushing anything there.
Every baby book, parent, and pediatrician told us he would roll tummy to back first around 3 months, then back to tummy, and then he might be sitting by 6 months. He was sitting unassisted at 4 months, 2 days, rolled BACK to tummy at 4 months 16 days, and the stinker held out on rolling tummy to back until 5 months 24 days, just last week on my birthday. In the last week, he's started pushing himself up on all fours...not crawling, yet, but pretty darn close.
He LOVES books. Being read to, looking at the pictures...chewing on the corners (trying to stop that before the teeth come through). We have three songs we sing to him that usually calm him down. When they don't work, Hush Little Baby (such a weird song when you think about what papa's gonna buy)...and then music from the Baby Einstein World Music album.
He's a really happy baby, except when he isn't. He doesn't have an "in-between" mood. He's either all giggles and smiles or in super-mad "my world is ending," mode. He nurses himself to sleep around 9pm and usually goes down for at least a few hours after that. At night, he only wakes to nurse. He's not a "3:45...must be playtime" kind of baby.
The last 6 months have been FULL of learning as we go (as I know the next 20-some years will be), changes (some expected, some not-so-much), late nights, early mornings, and learning how to "be" as a family with a baby. We'll see what the next 6 months will bring.
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Labels: baby, child development, infancy, parenting, six months old
Sunday, October 28, 2012
Ezra's {Almost Unmedicated} Birth Day
With the hymns playing and a lavender block in the hospital-provided Scentsy burner, my midwife and nurse both said it was the most relaxing labor they can remember attending. And, it kind of was relaxing at that point. I felt in control, I was still able to smile and laugh (which shocked them) but I knew it wasn't going to be that way for long.
UPDATE: I'm not about to say that unmedicated labor and birth didn't hurt...it did...a lot. But weeks 2 and 3 of nursing hurt so much worse. I didn't cry at all during labor...I bawled like a baby those 2 weeks every time he nursed. But, we pushed through it, the pain eventually went away, and we're still exclusively nursing and hoping to keep going until he's 2. Now I know that child birth actually isn't the most painful thing on the planet and I can get through it next time like it's nothing. :)
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Labels: birth story, cytotec, cytotec success, hospital birth, hydrotherapy, induction success, natural birth, nucb, unmedicated birth
Saturday, June 30, 2012
If You Want Something Done Right...
Just do it yourself.
I had the most difficult time finding a maternity swimsuit that was anywhere near decently modest. So, I found a style at walmart.com that looked like it might work. When it was delivered, though, the top was still too low. Unfortunately, I don't know of anyone who makes camis for swimsuits.
I googled "swimsuit modesty panel" and only found one tutorial using swimsuit fabric. It's $16/yd at Joann's. I figured I could make something work with an existing swimsuit. Took a trip to our local Wal-Mart store and picked up the cheapest black tankini top I could find, a ball-point needle for my sewing machine, and just went for it.
I pinned the tankini piece to the swimsuit top and trimmed away a good bit of the excess fabric. Trimmed after sewing. |
Finished!! |
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Labels: maternity, modesty panel, summer, swimsuit, swimwear
Friday, June 15, 2012
Attempt to Copycat Chick-fil-a Nuggets
One thing I miss A LOT is Chick-fil-a. Nuggets, sandwiches, lemonade, waffle fries, Chick-fil-a sauce. I found several copycat recipes online and decided to throw them all together. They're still missing...something...but they turned out pretty good, especially with some Kraft Honey Mustard Barbecue Sauce. And of course we had to have waffle fries. :)
Here's what I did, and it was a full dinner for 2 adults.
2 boneless skinless chicken breasts
Buttermilk, enough to cover chicken pieces
1 egg
1/4 cup Dill Pickle Juice
1/4 tsp Paprika
2 Cups Flour
2 Tbs Powdered Sugar
1/4 teaspoon Salt
1/4 teaspoon Pepper
Cut up chicken breasts into nugget-sized pieces and set aside.
In a large bowl, mix beaten egg with enough buttermilk to cover the chicken pieces (I honestly don't know how much I used). Add dill pickle juice and a paprika. Add chicken to mixture
Cover bowl. Let sit in refrigerator for at least 1 hr, or up to 24 hours.
Heat 2 inches of oil in a heavy pot over med-high heat, or in a fryer, to 375 degrees F.
In another large bowl or gallon-sized zip top bag, mix flour, powdered sugar, salt and pepper. Remove chicken from buttermilk mixture and add to flour mixture. Shake or stir until pieces are well covered.
Carefully place chicken in oil. Fry at least 1 minute on each side, until cooked through. Some of my pieces weren't completely crispy, so they may need to fry a little longer. Goal is golden brown color on the outside.
Use tongs to remove to a plate covered with a paper towel to drain.
I also had some pieces "slide" out of their coating when removed from the fryer. A few recipes said to dredge the pieces in flour, place them back in a bowl with 2 beaten eggs, and then dredge them again. That may help the coating stick a little better.
**I am in no way affiliated with Chick-fil-a and this is NOT their official recipe. This is an adapted mixture of several copycat recipes and is an attempt to help with being a little bit homesick. :)
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Labels: Chick fil a, chicken, Cooking
Monday, May 14, 2012
Snips and Snails and Puppy Dog Tails
We went to our 18 week appointment this afternoon, just expecting to hear Peanut's heartbeat on the doppler and then make the appointment for the anatomical/diagnostic ultrasound in mid-June.
Our nurse took us to one of the ultrasound-less exam rooms, got us settled, and our midwife came in with the doppler. After she said hi and asked how I was feeling, she asked if we wanted to know if we were having a boy or a girl, and would we like to do that now? Of course, we said yes, so we went down the hall to one of the ultrasound rooms.
She checked the heartbeat with the doppler, first, and it was 150 bpm. Peanut's heartbeat has been around 165 the previous visits, so I was kinda thinking girl, even though all my symptoms and "instincts" were leaning boy. She fired up the ultrasound and we tried for a long time to get a good look. Peanut, like his parents, is an introvert, and wanted nothing to do with being looked at. We watched some swallowing and the little heart, fingers, arms, and legs. We finally got a good shot and confirmed that Peanut is a BOY!!
This is our son, Ezra David. :)
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Friday, April 13, 2012
October's Gonna Get Crazy
I've kinda forgotten to update the blog, but we have something to share now!!
On February 7th, we found out that Baby Abbott is on his or her way, due October 17th!!
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Labels: answered prayers, baby, pregnancy
Monday, July 25, 2011
Why We Waited to Kiss
When I was 16, our youth pastor was doing the sermon one Sunday and the ONLY thing I remember is him challenging the youth to not kiss until their wedding. Our church is conservative Southern Baptist, but it's not "Duggar Conservative" (LOVE their family, btw) so it wasn't an idea or guideline I had been raised with. I remember there were about ten of us who took the challenge. I know of 2 who made it all the way to their wedding.
I was in 10th grade and been “going out” with a guy in my class. When I told him I had made that decision, he said it was ok with him, but a few weeks later, he said it wasn't working so we broke up. I went to a tiny public school in a tiny country town, so eventually everyone knew why we broke up, and if being a Christian who didn't go to parties was reason enough to be judged, they were loving the new material. But, I had a great group of Christian friends who said a guy who respected me enough would come along. My commitment also caused my senior year relationship to end, as well, even though he knew about it before we started dating.
I didn't date anyone until I met Fletcher 3 1/2 years later. (This wasn't a "no -dating conviction" thing...I just didn't meet anyone I had any interest in dating). Before we started dating, we knew we both wanted to wait until marriage to live together and to consummate the relationship, but I didn't bring up the kissing thing. I liked him so much and I didn't want to lose another one.
On our first date, we had a boundaries discussion, and he said he was fine with holding hands and hugging, but he wanted to wait on kissing. He never said how long, and I didn't want to say the word "marriage" on the first date. :) I thought about not bringing it up with him...I was 16 when I made that decision, and I was 21 when we started dating. I told myself I was old enough to control myself.
I went home for church one Sunday and one of the younger high schoolers was asking about this boy I was constantly talking about. She asked, "Does he want to wait until his wedding to kiss, too?" I had totally forgotten that I told the younger youth girls about it. So, I decided that if he brought it up, I would talk to him about it.
2 days later, we were sitting on the couch, he kissed my cheek, and his goatee tickled me. He laughed and said, "What are you going to do when I really kiss you?" So...he brought it up. I told him about my decision, scared to death he was going to break up with me, but...he didn't. He said that while he had not made that decision as early as I had, it was something he had thought about and wanted to commit to it.
It wasn't easy. It was honestly more difficult than not sleeping together, because we were raised knowing that's for marriage. We don't believe that kissing before marriage is a sin...but for us, it was a very clear boundary so we didn't have to worry about "How far is too far?"
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Friday, March 18, 2011
Quiet Time
I'm going through "Live Intimately: Lessons from the Upper Room" in my Quiet Times right now and Philippians 2:3-11 was part of the reading for today. I've read Philippians, I've taught a small group on Philippians, and I still find something new every time.
I also love how The Message words this passage:
5-8Think of yourselves the way Christ Jesus thought of Himself. He had equal status with God but didn't think so much of Himself that He had to cling to the advantages of that status no matter what. Not at all. When the time came, He set aside the privileges of deity and took on the status of a slave, became human! Having become human, He stayed human. It was an incredibly humbling process. He didn't claim special privileges. Instead, He lived a selfless, obedient life and then died a selfless, obedient death—and the worst kind of death at that—a crucifixion.
9-11Because of that obedience, God lifted Him high and honored Him far beyond anyone or anything, ever, so that all created beings in heaven and on earth—even those long ago dead and buried—will bow in worship before this Jesus Christ, and call out in praise that He is the Master of all, to the glorious honor of God the Father.
Have you read anything lately that you've seen differently now than the last 27 times you read it? Or has anything just stuck out to you lately?
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Thursday, March 17, 2011
St. Patrick the Church Planter
Patrick was neither Irish nor particularly religious, at least not initially. Patrick was born Maewyn Succat in 385 AD as a Roman citizen in the Welsh town of Banwen, and for the first sixteen years of his life he was an avowed pagan.
He was captured by Gaelic slave traders (some sources say Irish pirates/raiders/barbarians) at the age of sixteen and sold to an Irish sheep farmer. Patrick was enslaved for six years, during which he turned to Christianity for comfort. He escaped at the age of 22, and spent the next 12 years living in a British monastery. It was there that he adopted the name Patrick. He returned to Ireland after his time in a monastery, along with 20-some followers, serving as a Christian missionary. He remained in Ireland until his death on March 17, 460 AD.
St. Patrick used the shamrock to explain the Trinity to the Druids in Ireland, who viewed the shamrock as sacred. Patrick would hold up a shamrock and challenge his hearers, "Is it one leaf or three?" "It is both one leaf and three," was their reply. "And so it is with God," he would conclude.
Of the 150 tribes he ministered to, 30-40 of them became substantially Christian. He trained over 1,000 pastors and planted over 700 churches around Ireland. The "wear your green" came from the reminder to wear a shamrock to remind yourself to share about the Trinity and your faith.
The myth that Saint Patrick drove all the snakes from Ireland into the Irish Sea is just that -- a myth. Many locals still insist that the serpents were drowned in the Irish Sea by Saint Patrick, causing their seas to be so rough. The truth, however, is that serpents where never native to Ireland. The story is most likely a metaphor for the druidic religions, which disappeared from the Emerald Island after St. Patrick spread the seeds of Christianity.
So...it has almost as much to do with Leprechauns and green beer as Easter has to do with freakishly large, egg-hiding bunnies.
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Thursday, June 10, 2010
Still Kickin'
Kinda forgot about the blog...oops. I've been home for about 4 weeks now, and it's been pretty good. Last weekend, the family took a trip up to Fredericksburg for Taylor's high school graduation. It's crazy that she's going to college this fall. Wedding plans are going great. We have a date, a church, reception venue, I have a gown & veil, my bridesmaids are starting to pick their dresses, and we have LOTS of glass for the candy buffet. We've also picked all the music for the ceremony, which we've decided to keep a secret. No real reason...just because we can. :) I get to go down to NC this Sunday to see Fletcher and visit the church he's interning at this summer. I'm not a fan of being apart...at all. But, we'll be married in 366 days!! Family vacation is in 36 days...and if that would like to hurry up and get here, that'd be great! We've been looking forward to Kiawah since the first snowstorm hit back in December. This year, it'll be the 5 of us, Beth & Taylor, and Sarah! I'm so excited to get some girl time in. It's weird to think that next summer is going to so different than what we're used to.
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Sunday, February 14, 2010
The Perfect Day
So, all I knew about the plans for today is that we were going to church and that I should eat breakfast, because Fletcher wasn't sure when we'd get a chance to eat before dinner. After church, we got in the car, and he told me to drive across the street to:
Starbucks on Timberlake
This is where he asked me to officially be his girlfriend January 10, 2009. The day he asked me, he showed me a fortune cookie slip that said, "A thrilling time is in store for you." Today, he gave me that slip to keep, and then asked me to drive to:
The House I Lived In Last Year
This house is where he told me he loved me for the first time, and where we had the discussion that we wanted to save our first kiss for our wedding day. We had many deep discussions at the house as our relationship was beginning to develop. From there, he told me to drive to:
The Dollar Theatre
This is where we went to see Dark Knight November 15, 2008. At the time, neither one of us wanted to ask if that was a date...but now we know it kinda was. After that movie got out, he walked me to my car and asked if I wanted to go get coffee the next day. Today, he gave me the ticket stubs from Dark Knight, and from our first official date. And, since we couldn't make it to the Applebee’s parking lot because of traffic, he gave me the ticket stubs from the play we saw last Valentines' Day. That Applebee’s is where we had our first dinner date and where we had dinner last Valentines'. From there, he told me to drive to:
Dorm 25-1
That's where Fletcher was an RA last year. We would meet outside the dorm to go walk or hang out. Outside that dorm is also where, on December 2, 2008, he told me that he liked me and wondered if I felt the same way. We decided that we would talk over Christmas break, but we wouldn't make the relationship "official" until the beginning of the next semester. From the dorm, he told me to go to:
DeMoss Hall
This is the main academic building on campus, and it's where the computer lab is. Fletcher walked me up to the 2nd floor lab, and we sat on the couches where we would sit and talk after class. There, he got up, told me to wait, and before he left he handed me a letter that said:
Emily,
Thus far we have spent this day reliving our journey together. I wanted to do this together with you in order to savor some of the best moments in our relationship. Unfortunately I must leave you behind for a little while on the next part of this journey, but don't worry. We have friends who have played roles within our relationship and guided it in ways that we may never have fully expected.
The next part of this adventure is one in which you will need to trust the guidance of some of our friends just as I had to do in the beginning of our relationship. It is my hope that during this time you will be reminded of the role other people have played in our relationship and that they will continue to play a role as we continue on this adventure together.
Don't worry. I may have let you walk alone on this part of our journey today but I am waiting for you on the other side anticipating your arrival. I love you very much and already miss seeing your face even though it has only been for a few moments. Happy Valentines' Day, sweetheart. It is my hope that my creativity on this day thus far has been worthwhile to you. After all, I may not be able to give you riches of kings but I give you my heart. Perhaps that is the most important gift of all I could give you on this day. I look forward to seeing you on the other side.
So sit, wait, and your first guide will soon arrive.
So I sat, and waited, and then I saw Jesse walk around the corner. Jesse is one of Fletcher’s best friends from home, and when I saw that he had driven in today, I knew something was up. Jesse had a picture of Fletcher and I that had 1 Corinthians 13 on it.
Jesse read the passage and then took me down the hall to Eric, one of Fletcher’s SLDs this year and was also on his hall last year. Eric had another picture of us that said,
“We are all a little weird and life’s a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love.”
Eric and Jesse then took me down to Chris who has been on Fletcher’s hall the last two years and was in our English class last semester. Chris’s picture said:
“Love. We think about it, Sing about it, Dream about it and lose sleep worrying about it. When we don’t know we have it, we search for it. When we discover it, we don’t know what to do with it. When we have it, we fear losing it. It is the constant source of pleasure and pain. But we don’t know which it will be from one moment to the next. It is a short word, easy to spell, difficult to define, and IMPOSSIBLE to live without.”
Jesse, Eric, and Chris then took me down to Damian, who has also been on Fletcher’s hall and was also in our English class last semester. {and, thanks to Damian, some of the guys on Fletcher's hall this year heard me SCREAM at SacreMare} Damian’s picture said,
“I am nothing special of this I am sure. I am just a common man with common thoughts. There are no monuments dedicated to me and my name will soon be forgotten. But I’ve loved another with all my heart and soul, and to me, that has always been enough.”
The guys then took me to the door of the classroom where Fletcher and I met on August 25, 2008. Standing outside the door was Anthony, who sat in front of me and next to Fletcher during that English class. Anthony read the quote on his picture:
“The dark is generous, and it is patient, and it always wins—but in the heart of its strength lies weakness: one lone candle is enough to hold it back. Love is more than a candle. Love can ignite the stars.”
Anthony opened the door, and Fletcher was sitting in his seat. On the board, he had written: "Lesson #1: Men are like planets,” which comes from the first time we got together to study for an English test, and I had a typo in my notes that he, as you can see, still mocks me for, and has earned him the nickname, “Planet.” We talked for a bit, remembering the first time we met, and when he turned around and said, “Hi. I’m Fletcher,” that I looked like a deer in headlights. He told me not to look for a second, and then, over my shoulder, was another fortune cookie that he used when he asked me to be his girlfriend. This one said, “Your wish is about to come true.” He said (and this is paraphrase, because my brain is still mush right now…but it’s all on video that will be posted as soon as possible), “Last January, my wish was that you would be my girlfriend, but now {he starts turning me around} my wish is that you would be my wife.” {He pulls out the ring box and gets down on one knee and asks me to marry him}. The guys were taking pictures and video the whole time, and after we thanked them, we drove to Roanoke to tell my parents.
But that’s the story…and it was a perfect day.
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